The love of my life still wants to be friends after big split
I really had moved on, but now I feel as if I’m back to square one. What’s your advice?
You know you can’t be friends with him because it’s not good enough for you – you want more.
So my advice would be to retrace those baby steps backwards.
You’ve done so well during those two years you’ve been apart. I don’t blame you for giving it a go, but now you’ve realised that friendship isn’t going to work, that’s what you have to tell him.
He made his decision and, whether it was influenced by others or not, he can’t expect you to want to be a part of his life while he’s still married.
So call a halt to it now before your feelings get any deeper.
From your letter, it doesn’t sound as if he has any intention of leaving his wife and I don’t think it’s fair on her either that he wants to reignite your friendship.
Perhaps in another couple of years when you’ve met someone else and put those feelings for him behind you, you may be able to be friends again.
I know you say he was the love of your life, but you still have a lot of life to live and there isn’t just one person out there for you, even if it feels like it now.
There are plenty of people out there to love – you might love them in a different way, but it’ll be just as strong.